. . . But, if you want to be basic, be basic. A Response to, “Why I Can’t Be Basic.”
There are so many outlets telling us what to do, how to look, what to say, how to feel, when to breathe. . . that sometimes it’s hard to tell if what we’re doing is what we really want to do or if we’re falling for the either implicit or explicit trends that we see everywhere, everyday.
I think what you’re arguing, Julia, is that a black woman cannot and should not be called basic because she is the epitome of everything . . . and what I’m arguing is that regardless of what a black woman is being called – she may act in any so way that she pleases and you can call it what you want.
I feel compelled to argue that if a black woman wants to be basic, then let her be basic.
By definition, a basic b**** is someone that follows the latest trends (be they good or bad) and is just one in a sea of many.
The idea of a black woman being whatever she wants to be is so important to me because I recently saw a meme that made me think twice about this ideal.
It was something along the lines of black women not needing to believe in (black) feminism because we believe in sisterhood.
I was so annoyed because no one ever said that (black) feminism and sisterhood had to be mutually exclusive. Why can’t we have both? Are they not one in the same?
Black feminism is sisterhood and sisterhood is black feminism.
Black feminism is the intersectionality of sex, class, gender and race.
If I had to theorize the idea of sisterhood, I think I’d copy and paste the definition of black feminism.
The idea that we can have one and not the other in and of itself is why we need them both in the first place. It’s another example of oppression – limiting what we can and cannot have.
When I’m asked to identify who I am, hands down, top 5 identifies always include black feminist. I am a black woman – never black and happening to be a woman or a woman who happens to be black. And, I am a black feminist.
I am a black woman and I am a black feminist.
I am a black woman and I am a black feminist who by birth is apart of the sisterhood.
Point. Blank. Period.
The most disrespected person in America is the black woman. We keep saying it and then we walk around perpetuating stereotypes that deem it true.
And for the record – let’s stop stereotyping women all together.
I don’t believe even halfheartedly in the idea of a basic b****.
Not one woman should be called a basic b**** in the first place.
Men shouldn’t be walking around calling women anything (feminism in its truest form).
And those of us in the sisterhood definitely shouldn’t be walking around bashing our gendered kinfolk (also feminism in its truest form).
Black woman, be whatever you want to be and get your life with this spoken word.